There are some reasons to this agonizing feeling...
Most issues start at person's roots: family problems. Whether its domestic violence or family member's health is at jeopardy, you should always contact someone or at least try to talk to a friend or counselor about these situations.
Another factor is lack of communication with the outside world. Don't be afraid to start a conversation with someone because they might be fearful also. Sometimes, you may feel as if you have no one that cares about you but the truth is everyone in the world does. The question is the level of transparency of who cares for you. It's a two-way road, if you care for someone they will care for you. So if you feel lonely, write a list of the people that you care about and most likely one hundred percent of that list of people does care about you.
Other problems are low performance level or a negative self-conscious outlook on one's self. You may feel as if your performance has destroyed any chance of a successful future for you but that's not true. It's not a failure unless you accept the reality that is. I usually like to call these outcomes as learning experiences. You take from these events how to better yourself and improve your output or performance. Michael Jordan is my biggest example for this situation. Nike produced a commerical in 2006 and Michael Jordan had this to say, "I missed more than nine thousand shots in my career. I lost almost three hundred games. Twenty-six times I have been trusted to make the game-winning shot and missed. I failed over and over again in my life and that's why I succeed." This commerical perfectly illustrates what I am trying to get at. Performing poorly is bound to happen but what you take out of it is what matters. Learn from your mistakes and move on is the best motto I give. Being self-conscious of your appearance is pretty relevant to performance. You may want to use your performance and looks to impress others. That's not the true way to judge others. Looking bad one day or playing horrible in a basketball game is not the end of the world. Humans in nature are pretty forgiving and understanding. We all have slip-ups and that's why realistically, mistakes will not reflect in outer image. If you live day to day as a nice, charming person and works hard at anything. Then overall, you are as great as the next person.
Luckily for me, I never have gone through depression. The people in my life make me happy on a daily basis. However, over the years I have had many friends that have dealt with depression. My friend Johnny had trouble dealing with peer pressure and acceptance among his parents. He's always under the influence he could never live up to their standards regardless what he did. His brother was a pure genius attending Stanford on a full scholarship. His sister was a five-star volleyball player on the USA Junior National Team. He was just a regular student who liked to keep in shape. Johnny always wanted to be popular but he didn't know how. He attended every social event and tried to groom himself properly each time but he felt like he was going nowhere. We discussed ways he could get of that loop of sadness. It came down to the level where he wanted to just find something he was talented at and could be identified with that characteristic. For months, he tried every activity and sport known to man. But it came to something as simple as playing the guitar. As soon as he plucked his first guitar string, he was hooked. He wasn't great at first but practicing made him happy. His many hours of playing paid off when he performed at a local music station. Johnny plays constantly to this day. When he feels down, he just picks up his guitar and just plays one of his many favorite songs.
There are many reasons for depression. But many of them are solvable. Find the people who truly care about you and know they will always care for you. But as Johnny did, I think finding your niche will go a long way as well. Humans need to feel loved and good sometimes. Knowing your talented at something helps.
So in the future, use this more as a guideline rather than a solution. If you know someone feeling down, help them out. "If you are feeling down, turn that frown upside down."
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