To tell you the truth, I didn't really realize this until the summer before college. This may seem irrelevant to this blog but I believe its a good thing to have not a necessity. Having one of each is beneficial in so many ways. All guys have a feminine side in them. Some are just afraid to express in front of their male counterparts. All girls have a masculine side in them. You get the point. Having a friend of the same sex, you can always talk to about anything. For men, whether your fantasy football team is losing badly, how to tie a tie, checking out a girl you like or just some man talk, having that best friend will always make you feel your wanted and have someone to talk to at any time. For woman, whether which pair of heels matches with a certain dress, ask her to watch Grey's Anatomy with you, checking out the cute guy that passed by or just some girl talk. In the end, we all need someone to talk to sometimes and that friend will always be there.
When you have a best friend of the opposite sex, you should treat them like ...
... your other best friends. I have four best friends that are girls and a handful of guys. When I talk to these girls, I always feel willing to tell them anything. But the thing is they usually give a different opinion than my other friends. When I have girl troubles or scared on what to do, I can always talk to them to help me.
My senior year, I really liked this girl that went to another school. Yet, I had no clue how she felt and I was confused by her reactions and what her friends said. I told some guys about it and they told me just be assertive and ask her immediately about it. That didnt sound right to me and I am glad I didn't listen to them. I asked my friend "Jane"(keep her name secret) what to do and she told me to take it slowly and let her open to me. So I waited a few weeks, surely enough she opened up to me and told me how she felt about me. It didn't work out in the end but I am glad I waited to hear instead of rushing. See sometimes for me girls can give me advise that guys cant and vice-versa. It's good to have a difference of opinions and being able to determined which is best. Plus when you have friends that are of the opposite gender, you get more confidence talking and opening up to the other sex.
When I was in junior high, I will admit I was a huge nerd. I had all the qualities of one, big glasses, love of math/science, enjoyed playing video games, dorky haircut, no fashion sense, no knowledge of pop culture, could never dance or talk to girls, momma's boy, etc. As time progressed though, I learned to adapt with the teenage world of drama. I learned from my mistakes and made a lot of new friends along the way. I just noticed when I made my first friend that was a girl(whom I had no feelings for) is when I realized I could start talking to girls confidently.
Overall in general, this is more of a piece of advise. Even write now I am asking some guys and girls what I should write about in my blog in the future.
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