Love. It's the most desired thing in the world aside with money. I can't say enough though how great of a feeling it is to be loved but also how hard it is to find it. You can't just lay around waiting for it, you have to go and search for it.
I been in love two times in my life. Each time...
ended peacefully but for different reasons. My first love was when I just entered my teenage years(13). She was everything I wanted in a girl subjectively. We could have a conversation on anything intellectual and she played many sports. I met her during gym class while playing volleyball. Pleasantly, she came up to me and introduced herself. I guess everything was in my favor with her, since we started track together. We worked out a lot together in our jumping sessions. Amazingly, she finished first in triple jump and I finished second in triple jump at conference. Her mom bought me many things because we got along so well. My favorite thing she got for me was this hoodie which had my name on the back of it along with all my track events. I spend almost every minute with her: practicing at jump sessions, walking at school together, or just talking on the phone for hours. After three great months, we eventually outgrew each other. We didn't have that spice in our conversations anymore since we learned we had so much in common. We agreed to just break-up and move on. Evidently, my first relationship taught me the most I have learned. Having similar tastes is great but sometimes, you need to have differences so you two can argue and debate over things. Talking is a major key in relationships and once it fades, you can never get it back. I still keep the hoodie her mom gave me to this day, to give me a reminder how much she carved my aspects of love.
My second time in love was magical. One day, I was just sitting around with a group of friends and she walked in. Immediately, our eyes looked at each other and we both smiled. I went to go get some food and when I came back, she was gone. I was so disappointed at myself for not going up to her and introducing myself. One day later, I get a phone call from a number I did not recognize. It was her. She explained she knew someone who mentioned my name before with her(she knew my name from awhile ago for some odd reason) and asked them if they had my number. That phone call ended up being six hours long. From that day on, we were inseparable. She could make me smile at anytime. Her blue eyes and blond hair just made me feel like I had the most beautiful girl in my hands. We dated for seven months but then her dad got offered a job in another state. She moved away and we went out for another two months after that. But, I only got to see her once in that time span. We ended up ending things because we would never have physical contact with each other. My advise to anyone is once you have love don't let it go. I let mine go because some arbitary distance. Something I regretted but I moved on from it.
Something I heard a long time ago which really made sense to me was an acronym for love: laughter, obedience, valuable and elegance. Each partner should be able to make the other one laugh. Smiling and laughing are what makes moments together special. We tend to oversee this quality a lot. The next part of the acronym is obedience. I don't mean you have to do everything the other tells you but you two must be able to make it through hard times. Through thick and thin, you two will always be there for each other in the end no matter what happens. When you can't talk or see each other, it's not the end of the world. We all have a different life and things happen. We just have to understand that and stay obedient to the other person because they will be there for us in the end. Valuable is the next part of the acronym. You don't have to give up your friends for him/her but he/she does belong on a higher pedestal. They are giving you a major part of their life and you should return the favor. They are willing to share with you anything that's going on in their life or past. So I believe they do belong a bit higher than your friends but he/she can never replace them. The last part of this acronym is elegance. They don't have to be Hollywood material but when you look at them, they are beautiful to you. Just seeing them, sparks your day. You could be looking and talking to them for hours and nothing would phase you. They have this certain elegance that draws you in. If they have all four of these qualities, you know you found the one.
People say they will never find the right one. But I believe there's a lover for every single person out there. The task of finding them is the hard thing. One day, you will find your soulmate just which day will it be? Currently, I am in that search also. I think I may have found her but time will only tell. If not, I will just keep moving on until I find her in my life. But until that day I get married to my true lover, I say, "Whoever is Steven Chin's lover, please come faster!"
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